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Only La India Understands All The Stages, Including Anger And Relapse, Of A Breakup

Breakups are hard. One minute you want to call your ex to give them an angry, unfiltered piece of your mind, and literally 60 seconds later you’re resisting the urge to show up at their doorstep with a mixtape of all the songs you dedicated to each other.

It’s a constant back and forth that’s really effed up and totally soul-crushing, but it happens to the best of us. Sometimes the only thing that can get us through our heartbreak is listening to our favorite musicians sing all of our feelings, because they’ve been there too. And when it comes to música en español, La India is among the queens of breakup hits.

Here, the Puerto Rican salsera touches every stage of romantic separation and somehow makes us want to dance in between our crying and pillow punching.

1. When you’re desperate for answers, “Sobre El Fuego” will get you through all those questions you have.


It happened. You two broke up, and now you’re trying to make sense of it. The questions, as asked by La India: “Why did you mistreat me?” “Why did you leave?” The drive to know what went wrong is burning. You need to know!

2. Then you start to wonder if there’s anything that can be done to salvage your relationship. You start to bargain and “Te Daré Dulzura” totally gets this stage.


So you think you’ve figured out what went wrong, and now you’re ready to make amends, and by that you really mean make promises you may or may not keep. You’ll be a better girlfriend, more supportive, attentive, fun – whatever it is they need. You are willing to take on the burden of repairing this broken relationship all on your own, taking responsibility for everything.

3. But eventually, you come to terms with the fact that you’re never getting back together, but that doesn’t mean that “Nunca Voy A Olvidarte” won’t resonate.


Your desperate pleas didn’t work. They’re over it – or maybe they’re just enjoying the chase – so you tell yourself you have to move on, even though you know you will never forget this person and will love them forever.

4. And just when you thought you were over each other… There’s a relapse, because “Costumbres.”


Oh wait. The absence of your desperate “I’m sorry,” “take me back,” “I’ll do whatever you want me to do” text messages has the ex wondering if you really moved on. They reach out, you respond, and all of a sudden you’re getting your wish: another try.

5. But you’re too good for this and you realize “No Me Conviene.”


You promised to do better, and every day you do, until you realize you’re the only one putting in any real effort. You can’t take responsibility for everything, and you know that now. The fact that they don’t is a blow, and you’re realizing, maybe this person does not suit you after all. This time, you’re the one who initiates the split.

6. Oh, what were you thinking?! “Ese Hombre” que tu vez allí es un gran necio, un estúpido… Her words, not yours or ours.


Here you are again, alone in your room replaying the years of your relationship. But this time you’re angry. You can catch the lies, deceit, manipulation and disrespect that your sadness didn’t let you see the first time you broke up. You see this person for the trash they are. As La India says, they’re a conceited, selfish fool, a jealous clown without a heart who’s insecure and was a horrible lover. You find empowerment in your anger. You remember for the first time in a long time that you matter, too.

7. Then people who side with your ex start to talk. They talk and “Dicen Que Soy” all these horrible things, but you don’t give a f–––.


So your ex’s friends have noticed your angry social media posts and are forming not-so-nice opinions of you without hearing your side of the breakup story. “How could she,” they say. But you’re fine. They can call you a dominant, arrogant, traitor who bewitched your ex. They can say whatever they want about you. You’re untroubled because you know what happened and you’re all right with yourself.

8. But you take a deep breath and you accept that you’re going to be fine without them. You tell yourself “Me Voy a Acostumbrar” and you move on.


Okay, time to cut the drama. Yes, the ex mistreated you and put you on the wildest roller coaster ride of your life, but this person, and your relationship with them, isn’t deserving of hate. You loved them for a reason, and despite all the hurt they brought you, there were plenty more times of joy, love and laughter. You can both acknowledge and accept that, while you may still love (or disdain) them, they were but a chapter in your life. You learn how to live your life without them, accustom yourself to a life sans-ex, and you do.

9. After the acceptance phase, you know you’re over it. And you sing “Que Me Importa” because you couldn’t care less if they reach out.


It’s been months, maybe years now, and you can finally say you’re over it and you mean it. Right when you do, you receive a text message from a number not saved in your phone, saying, “I miss you.” It’s them. What do you care? You’re unfazed. Their tears and pleas mean little to you now.

Bonus: You learn to love yourself, because “Soy Mujer” and you got this with or without them.


Through your heartbreak, you learned a thing or two about yourself. You survived great loss, but now you know your strength. You know the love you’re capable of giving and the one you deserve. You’re a rebel woman, immodest woman, independent woman – and you’re blessed to have become her.


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What other La India songs do you listen to during heartbreak? Let us know in the comments.

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Video Dug Up From Cardi B’s Past Shows Her Saying She Used To Drug And Rob Men

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Video Dug Up From Cardi B’s Past Shows Her Saying She Used To Drug And Rob Men

Stay grateful you did not grow up in the era of Snapchat/ Instagram/ Facebook kids because you can delete but your recorded actions can still come back to bite. Cardi B knows the story. While the Afro-Latina queen of Trap isn’ making any apologies, the latest video to be dug up from her past is requiring her to give some answers.

Video of the singer, recalling a time in her life in which she felt forced to drug and rob men while seducing them has resurfaced.

Over the weekend, video of the “Money” rapper recalling how she used to drug and rob men resurfaced.

The video, which was recorded during an Instagram live broadcast, sees Cardi as she goes on a tearful verbal tirade about her past. This after, someone apparently questioned her success and accused her of not “putting in no fucking work.”

“I had to go ‘oh yeah, you wanna fuck me? Yeah yeah yeah let’s go to this hotel.’ And then I’d drug [expletivie] up and I’d rob them. That’s what I used to do.”

Users online were quick to comment.

“The fact that cardi b admitted to drugging and robbing men she would take back to a hotel for sex blows my mind,” wrote Twitter user @itsangelaa. “That’s not ‘keeping it real.’ that’s a crime.”

“I wonder what woulda happened if it were the other way round,” @BTSisthecauseo5 commented.

At the onset of the backlash, the rapper seemed to take the comments rather lightly.

The following day she also tweeted “IM THAT BITCH THEY LOVE TO HATE, IM THAT BITCH THEY HATE TO LOVE and I love it.”

On Tuesday, however, after users on Instagram and Twitter continued to simmer, she was forced to issue comment.

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In a post to her Instagram, the rapper responded to the comments about the video by saying: “I’m a part of a hip hop culture where you can talk about where you come from talk about the wrong things you had to do to get where you are.”


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Leslie Grace And Super Junior’s “Lo Siento” Is The Hit All Latinx K-Pop Fans Have Been Waiting For

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Leslie Grace And Super Junior’s “Lo Siento” Is The Hit All Latinx K-Pop Fans Have Been Waiting For

The year 2017 marks a time of major multilingual and multicultural musical collaborations. With Luis Fonsi’s remix of “Despacito,” featuring Daddy Yankee and Justin Bieber, climbing to the top of Billboard’s Hot 100 chart for 16 weeks, and J Balvin and Willy William’s remix for “Mi Gente,” featuring Beyoncé, making it to the No. 3 spot, the western music market is opening up to music in Spanish. But these aren’t the only collaborations bridging different cultures and genres. In the era of globalization, K-pop, short for Korean pop music, is an international phenomenon, and the genre is beginning to meld its addictive melodies with urban Latin pop. Evidence: K-pop boy band Super Junior’s recent collaboration with Leslie Grace.

Debuting in 2005, the fellas of Super Junior are the kings of Hallyu — the Korean wave. At their height, 15 men donned the Super Junior title, but, due to departures, mandatory military service and other issues, only Siwon, Donghae, Eunhyuk, Shindong, Yesung, Heechul and Leeteuk are currently active. As a group, the men have led a revolution in the industry, spurring forward electro-pop and R&B-influenced dance tracks.

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And among K-pop, they also have one of the strongest fan bases in Latin America. The group has long captivated these audiences with hits like “Sorry Sorry,” “Mr. Simple” and “Mamacita,” and Super Junior has made sure to visit their Latin American E.L.F — what they call their fans — on three separate tours since 2013, holding arena shows in Mexico, Argentina, Chile and Peru. It must be noted that the group has yet to hold a single solo show in the U.S.

For many years, Super Junior and SM Entertainment, their label, had seen the excitement from their supporters in Latin America and wanted to show their gratitude by releasing a song partly sung in Spanish. In March, the group dropped “Lo Siento,” a tune about finding romance on the dance floor, featuring Dominican-American singer Leslie Grace and the Latino production duo Play-N-Skillz as part of the extended version of their eighth album, Replay.  

“The song with Super Junior and Play-N-Skillz came out of nowhere. None of us really knew each other,” Leslie Grace, who was recommended to the K-pop group by the Argentine-Venezuelan sibling duo Play-N-Skillz, told FIERCE. “The beauty of it was [having the opportunity of] discovering something that’s been happening hugely in its own right in a different side of the world, and discovering it for the first time and saying, ‘Man, I wanna be a part of that. I don’t know anything about it up until this point, but I really want to be a part of that.’”

While it’s commonplace for K-pop groups to release records in Japanese or Mandarin in order to cater to Asian music markets, or English one-offs for international fans, no act had ventured into singing in Spanish or acknowledged their Latin American fans with a song quite like Super Junior.

“Lo Siento” is a true K-pop and urban Latin-pop mashup. It plays up the typical Spanish guitar and blends a familiar Latin flair with the energy and the mix of pop, dance and hip-hop that K-pop is known for. The music video, shot in South Korea, even features the “Díganle” singer dancing along with the guys of Super Junior.

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The trilingual track debuted at No. 13 on Billboard’s Latin digital sales chart, the first K-pop entry ever. A bit over two weeks after the music video dropped, “Lo Siento” surpassed 20 million views, which was three times more than what their last Korean single, “Black Suit,” accumulated.

While “Lo Siento” isn’t the first time K-pop artists have teamed up with Latin ones nor used Latin genres in their music, it is the first instance that we can actually call a real collaboration. In 2016, for instance, Ricky Martin released a version of his hit “Vente Pa’ Ca” featuring Wendy from K-pop girl group Red Velvet, though she sang in English, and Mexican boy band CD9 released “Get Dumb” with Korean girl group Crayon Pop. In both cases, the artists simply exchanged vocals, put them together and released the song with little fanfare. With “Lo Siento,” however, not only did Leslie fly to Korea to be in the music video, but Super Junior invited her and Play-N-Skillz on their Latin American tour last month.

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Stopping in Buenos Aires, Lima, Santiago and Mexico City, Leslie, Play-N-Skillz and Super Junior played before a total of 55,000 fans. The stars blew up the stage with “Lo Siento,” but both Play-N-Skillz and Leslie also had the chance to perform their own sets during the show.

“It never stops being a surprise, with my most recent released single ‘Duro y Suave,’ for [the crowd] to sing it back to me,” the 23-year-old singer, who came to fame after the release of her bachata remake of The Ronettes’ “Be My Baby” in 2013, told us. “I know it’s Super Junior’s crowd. I know that their fans are so accepting and loving, and I knew that they would be attentive during the show, but you don’t expect everyone to connect, especially a crowd that’s so different, to your music when you’re the special guest.”

Leslie is currently finishing her new album, which she says will drop by the end of the year. She’s also very excited about potentially finishing another leg of the tour with Super Junior. “They’re trying to see if we can do some more shows in Latin America, in Central America, go to the countries we didn’t get to go to in South America, like Colombia [and] Brazil,” she said.

Just like with “Despacito” and “Mi Gente,” “Lo Siento” is bringing together different cultures, languages and even fandoms from various parts of the world that don’t get to interact as much through music in a compact, smooth earworm.

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“For us to come together just fully based off of mutual artistic respect, and for something like this to happen, and now everybody really enjoying it despite the cultural differences, that to me was the biggest takeaway and the biggest blessing to now be a part of Super Junior’s story and them a huge part of mine,” Leslie said.  

During an interview in Times Square, the dominicana gave the boys a quick dance lesson — and it was all caught on camera.

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“Bridging cultures one dance step at a time! First Super Junior with me and ‘Group Dance’ in their land South Korea, and now me with them and ‘Bachata’ in my home NYC,” Grace, 23, captioned a video of the dance sesh she posted on Instagram. “Proud to be your instructor, @eunhyukee44 hahaha! You are officially baptized the best bachatero out of Korea by the princess of bachata — BOOM!”

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