Demi Lovato Admits To Relapse In ‘Sober’ Music Video — And She’s Still My Hero

Demi Lovato is blowing up the internet with the surprise release of her latest song and music video, “Sober.” The video, which begins with montages of what might be her partying — drinking possibly included — goes into a black screen with some pretty powerful lyrics in which she admits to relapsing from her sobriety after six years. It’s a powerful song that is already drawing critics and possibly losing some fans, but I am here to tell you that as a Latina living a sober life myself it has made me love her even more.

It might sound strange to say that I, a 32-year-old woman, look up to someone who is just 25 years old, but I have been a fan of Lovato’s work for years.

I have always been impressed by her music, her lyrical ability, and her voice. In fact, I listened to her album “Confident” more times than I can possibly count. Although there were fun hits like “Cool for the Summer” and “Confident,” it was her heartfelt melodies like “Stone Cold” and “Father” that truly moved me. But beyond all of that, her music came into my life at exactly the time I needed it most. It was at a time when I was newly sober and learning how to navigate the world as a person in recovery.

Before admitting to my problem with alcohol and seeking help, I knew very little about Lovato other than what most of us probably knew: She’s a former Disney Channel darling, best friends with Selena Gomez, and a proud Latina who isn’t afraid to talk about her curves. I also knew that she had struggled with bipolar disorder, addiction, an eating disorder, and self-harm, and had gone to rehab.

When I went to rehab in the summer of 2015, I became obsessed with her story and found her openness about her addiction and mental health struggles to be quite inspiring.

So when I first watched the video for “Sober” in which Lovato fully admits to relapsing in her recovery with lyrics such as “Wake me when the shakes are gone and the cold sweats disappear” and “Momma, I’m so sorry I’m not sober anymore,” I was shocked. But to be honest, what shocked me most was how incredibly open she was about sharing this deeply personal, dark part of her journey toward sobriety.

It is not easy to open up to someone else and admit that you have a problem. It’s even harder still to admit that the problem, which you thought had gone away or at least was under control, is still there. It’s easy to feel like a failure when a relapse happens. I should know. Six months after “Confident” first came out, I experienced a relapse of my own. At the time I was too ashamed to make the admission to my parents and friends. After going to rehab, they had all praised me for being strong and successful in my recovery. To admit to having a relapse felt as if I failed. Really, it felt as if I had failed the people who loved me and supported me. Not only did I fear them thinking I was irresponsible, but I also feared that they would not support me again.

I understand the way Lovato feels in this song, and I am sure that making the decision to open up about her continued struggles with addiction couldn’t have been easy. However, it is my belief, that she has proven herself to be even stronger than she might be feeling now. I say those mostly because I have had to make a similar admission, this despite the fact that I knew that the road to recovery would hardly be a simple one. I can only imagine what gearing up to walk a similar path recovery while all the world is watching and judging can feel like.

At one point in Demi’s song, she says “It’s only when I’m lonely.” It’s a sentiment that makes my heart break because I know what loneliness can do to a sober person, how it can lure a person past a breakpoint and hurdle them back to the starting line. When I first got sober, my friends stuck by me and continued to love me. However, I also lost some friends who didn’t understand my new sobriety and, to be honest, sometimes interactions with loved ones could be awkward. I felt that same loneliness even when I was surrounded by people, just as we see Demi in the beginning of the music video. Those of us who are in recovery can certainly relate to the feelings of loneliness, to the excuses, to the pain and “drinks spilled on the floor” that she sings about. And we can certainly relate to being only human, as she states so beautifully because nobody — not even a celebrity — can overcome addiction all on their own. In fact, recovery is a lifelong struggle. We will never entirely be cured of our addictions, but what we can do is combat the loneliness and isolation that so often leads to relapse in the long, difficult journey of lifelong recovery.

Demi’s song proves to be one of her more important hits because it is a reminder that, particularly today, we could all use a bit more empathy.

At one point the singer says “sorry for the fans I lost who watched me fall again” and that she wants “to be a role model but I’m only human.” It’s a reminder that there’s a catch when it comes to role models, they’re just as human, just as susceptible to mistakes as the rest of us.

At the end of “Sober,” Demi says that she promises to get help and sings a line that expresses that she’s “sorry to myself.” As soon as I heard it, I couldn’t help but applaud the words and Demi loudly. Although she expresses her belief that she might no longer be a role model, I believe her song and admission only confirms her status as someone people can look up to. If anything, I believe that her ability to be honest about her relapse makes her more of a role model than ever before. We all have flaws, but it’s in admitting to those flaws and surrounding ourselves with our loved ones that we can find true recovery. I truly believe that a role model is someone that can admit to those things, pick themselves and keep heading towards the finish line just as Demi Lovato is doing now.

Check out her video below:

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It’s The Beginning Of The Year And Cardi B and Selena Gomez Have Already Topped Spotify’s Most-Streamed Female Artists


It’s The Beginning Of The Year And Cardi B and Selena Gomez Have Already Topped Spotify’s Most-Streamed Female Artists

In celebration of International Women’s Day, Spotify released a list of the music streaming service’s most-popular female artists, and it’s filled with Latina singers.

The platform, which has tens of millions of subscribers from across the world, including Latin American countries like Brazil, Chile, Colombia, El Salvador, Honduras, Mexico, Peru and the Dominican Republic, created catalogs for its most-streamed female artists worldwide and in the US between January 1 and March 1 of 2019.

Globally, Dominicana-Trinidadian rapper Cardi B came out higher than any other Latina artist at No. 8, unsurprisingly as the Bronx hitmaker followed her 2018 platinum debut album “Invasion of Privacy” with several more bangers like “Money” and, most recently,” “Please Me” with Bruno Mars.

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Behind Cardi is Selena Gomez (No. 9), whose 2018 hits “Taki Taki” and “Back To You” continue to dominate just about everyone’s playlists.

Latin American artists also made the list, with colombiana Karol G at 13. Cuban-Mexican breakout Camila Cabello followed at 14, Chicana Becky G at 16 and Demi Lovato at 18.

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Similar to Spotify’s worldwide streams, there were also six Latinas on the platform’s 20 most-listened to female artists in the US.

Once again, Belcalis Marlenis Almanzar leads her compañeras, this time making the top five at No. 4. Following behind her is Kehlani (No. 9), Camila Cabello (No. 10), Selena Gomez (No. 12), Demi Lovato (No. 16) and the Puerto Rican-Mexican singer-songwriter Julia Michaels at No. 18.

The list shows the growing strength of Latinas in music, especially the rise of Spanish-language urbano hits, as artists like Cardi (“I Like It”), Selena (“Taki Taki”), Camila (“Havana”), Karol G (“Mi Cama”), Becky G (“Sin Pijama”) and Demi Lovato’s (“Échame La Culpa”) chart-toppers in the last year were partly or fully sung in Spanish.

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Check out Spotify’s full lists of the most-streamed female artists of 2019 worldwide and in the US below.

The 20 most-streamed female artists in the world:

1. Ariana Grande

2. Billie Eilish

3. Lady Gaga

4. Halsey

5. Dua Lipa

6. Taylor Swift

7. Rihanna

8. Cardi B

9. Selena Gomez

10. Nicki Minaj

11. Sia

12. Bebe Rexha

13. Karol G

14. Camila Cabello

15. Anne-Marie

16. Becky G

17. Beyoncé

18. Demi Lovato

19. Miley Cyrus

20. Adele

The 20 most-streamed female artists in the US:

1. Ariana Grande

2. Billie Eilish

3. Halsey

4. Cardi B

5. Taylor Swift

6. Nicki MInaj

7. Lady Gaga

8. Rihanna

9. Kehlani

10. Camila Cabello

11. Dua Lipa

12. Selena Gomez

13. Bebe Rexha

14. Beyonce

15. Ella Mai

16. Demi Lovato

17. SZA

18. Julia Michaels

19. Sia

20. Lana Del Rey

Read: Up Next: Rombai Is Ushering In The Return Of Latin Pop Bands

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These Empowering Latina Jams Are Perfect To Add To Your Galentine’s Day Playlist


These Empowering Latina Jams Are Perfect To Add To Your Galentine’s Day Playlist

Happy Galentine’s Day, mamis! What, you never heard of the holiday? According to Parks and Recreation’s Leslie Knope, who made it a thing, “it’s only the best day of the year.” And she ain’t lying. Galentine’s Day, observed February 13, is a day to celebrate love — between your hermanas!

As the fictional character played by Amy Poehler in the series said, it’s “ladies celebrating ladies.” Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it’s a time to bring your closest gals together, either for brunch, evening cocktails, mani-pedis or an old-school slumber party, and bask in the beauty, love and joy of your friendship.

No Galentine’s Day commemoration would be complete without some girl power tunes. Here, a celebration playlist you and your bella squad can bang out to while toasting to being ride-or-dies.

1. Remind your mamis what’s in store for them this Galentine’s Day with “Ladies Night.”

This Lil’ Kim classic, featuring Boricua Angie Martinez, Left Eye, Da Brat and Missy Elliot, will undoubtedly get the squad hyped for the Galentine’s festivities to come.

2. Today’s all about feelin’ good, so you have to bring out Demi Lovato’s “Confident.”

On Galentine’s Day, you shower your femme squad with compliments — as you probably do any day of the week — and try your best to make sure the whole gang knows their worth.

3. Remind your nenas they are bomb just as they are with Bomba Estéreo’s “Soy Yo.”

Sure, if we’re being real with our chicas, as we should be, there’s room for all of us to grow as individuals, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t great already. Colombiana Li Saumet will have all the gals loving on themselves, and all their complexities, with this 2016 banger.

4. If this is a single ladies kind of festivity, pull out Paloma Mami’s “Not Steady.”

If your squad is the type that yells “soltera para siempre” as they toast their champagne, you need this chilena’s bop about not wanting to settle down blasting at the pari.

5. Remind your amigas that lovers “Can’t Hold Us Down” with this Christina Aguilera and Lil’ Kim classic.

Even if your squad is mixed, with single ladies and mujeres in relationships, both will appreciate la ecuatoriana’s still-relevant message about not letting your boo, or the patriarchy, keep you down.

6. After all, you can’t tame a boss bitch.

Just ask puertorriqueña Kelis, whose 2006 jam “Bossy,” featuring Too $hort, will have all the girls embracing their inner jefa.

7. Ride out with the nenas as the car radio blares Selena Gomez’s “Me & My Girls.”

Pre-game: check. It’s time to hit the dance floor, and this young mexicana will have you and your chicas feelin’ alive and set to shake the night away.

8. Put your worries aside with Mariah Carey’s “It’s Like That.”

As the venezolana says, “no stress, no fights … no tears, no time to cry.” Tonight is all about you and your girls livin’ it up. So heed Mariah’s advice and “open off that Bacardi” and feel “so hot tamale.”

9. Feelin’ it yet? Good! ‘Cause Cardi B’s “Money Bag” is about to have all the mamis twerking.

Like the dominicana’s own “bloody gang,” your crew is so bad that you’re out on the dance floor lookin’ “like bridesmaids,” so do like Cardi and drop that confident ass low.

10. But make sure Ivy Queen’s “Quiero Bailar” reminds everybody else that this is a Galentine’s Day party.

Swaying those hips is catching some attention. No one hates when some of the girls dance up with folk who aren’t in the crew, but let the Bori reggaetonera let the desperadxs know this is a girls’ night and the crew is going home together — punto.

Read: Watching Women In Her Life Abandon Relationships When Romance Arrives, This Latina Is Calling For A New Love Hierarchy

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