Having a quinceañera is a right of passage for many young women and their families, but when you’re super shy and introverted, the idea of being the center of attention is a total nightmare. Here’s how I, a shy Latina, attempted to get through the biggest night in my life…
First, I tried to avoid the whole spectacle…
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Don’t worry, you’re you’re not the only one.
…and offered some other options in its place.
:,) proud moment hahaha my little cousin didn't want a quince she wanted a yegua instead pic.twitter.com/AVtBEOSfX7
— YP (@ypldo7) May 19, 2017
Wouldn’t you rather go on a trip? Or give me a car? Or a yegua?
Because the idea of being in the center of a room was terrifying at that age.
In the daughter's defence in #onedayatatime I didn't want a quince either b/c I hated being the center of attention.
— ThatNerdyBolivianx (@LizzieVisitante) January 14, 2017
I mean, what’s so difficult to understand?
But there was no escaping that this quince was my family’s party, maybe even more than mine.
I swear my mom is persuasive somehow she convinced me & my sister to have a quinceanera/sweet 16 we were tomboy af & didn't want 1 lol
— Anetita (@Pompudaaa) July 27, 2017
That guilt trip is good I tell you.
So, it was going to happen por las buenas o por las malas.
I just found out that I stopped getting birthday cakes & gifts bc I told my family I didn't want to have a quinceañera 7 years ago pic.twitter.com/1NzHuC3qx6
— ? i v y (@poisonsme) August 25, 2017
Not having one was a personal attack!
Mami dragged me to find a fancy dress and everything was…too much.
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Your primas LOVED it all, though.
My cousins, mom and aunts pretty much took over the invite list.
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Las tías, los tíos, las primas, las vecinas, las maestras, las señoras de la iglesia, fulana, sotana, on and on and on…
The quinceañera photoshoot was a nightmare to get through.
I am so shy and nervous to take my Quinceañera pictures ??
— mabel luis♡ (@Mabel_Luis98) August 6, 2013
I could barely even take a normal family photo so there was no way a full-blown photo shoot was going to happen!
I said there would absolutely NOT be a court.
a reason why i didn't have a quince is b/c i didn't want to choose people for my court
— Sandraa (@Sandaliaaa_) March 28, 2013
They expect me to choose dancers and THEN dance in front of ALL these people?
Then they made me dance alone, and it wasn’t fun.
Who's pinche prima is this? ??? pic.twitter.com/b0gT1LnMja
— Lil Triko-Tri (@ColtsFanGus) August 31, 2017
Which only centered the attention on me more.
I still had to ask a guy to be my chambelan and it was nerve-racking af.
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I personally couldn’t even dare go this route, but I saw some friends end up dancing with their awkward primo, so I decided it was a no-go from the beginning.
People might’ve mistaken my shyness at the quince for being ungrateful.
ppl are gonna think im rude on my quinceanera bc i probs wont talk to anyone but im just really shy :-/
— alms (@tubularalma_) June 30, 2014
I can’t help it, just get me away from the dance floor…quick!
My parents were 100% pulling me in every direction all night.
Shy girls at their quinceañera pic.twitter.com/jdnccZq6lc Parents: Entonces pa que querias quinceñera? Ahora ve a bailar con mi primo segundo!
— Nohel! (@CNBA2k14) August 22, 2014
But I didn’t want this!
But my fam was proud of me and they probably just wanted to show me off.
CREDIT: CW/ Jane The Virgin
Yay. I made it to 15 and I am standing here in a wedding dress! That’s cool, I guess?
In hindsight, I might have a little regret for not enjoying that moment to the fullest.
my monthly i regret not having a quince tweet pic.twitter.com/ESU4MgmyFR
— la bruja del 71 (@jiminsIatina) September 18, 2017
I regret not having a quince like I was too shy ?? now I'd be like bitch look at me ?
— Karen Tabarez (@karenntabarez) August 17, 2017
I wish I had that confidence at 14 to know what I wanted for my quince, but then again, none of us will probably ever be totally comfortable at that age. You live and you learn.