I Let My Shyness Take Over Me And I Admit I Kind Of Regret Not Taking Full Advantage Of My Quince

Having a quinceañera is a right of passage for many young women and their families, but when you’re super shy and introverted, the idea of being the center of attention is a total nightmare. Here’s how I, a shy Latina, attempted to get through the biggest night in my life…

First, I tried to avoid the whole spectacle…

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Don’t worry, you’re you’re not the only one.

…and offered some other options in its place.

Wouldn’t you rather go on a trip? Or give me a car? Or a yegua?

Because the idea of being in the center of a room was terrifying at that age.

I mean, what’s so difficult to understand?

But there was no escaping that this quince was my family’s party, maybe even more than mine.

That guilt trip is good I tell you.

So, it was going to happen por las buenas o por las malas.

Not having one was a personal attack!

Mami dragged me to find a fancy dress and everything was…too much.

FOX/ Scream Queens

Your primas LOVED it all, though.

My cousins, mom and aunts pretty much took over the invite list.

CW/ Gilmore Girls

Las tías, los tíos, las primas, las vecinas, las maestras, las señoras de la iglesia, fulana, sotana, on and on and on…

The quinceañera photoshoot was a nightmare to get through.

I could barely even take a normal family photo so there was no way a full-blown photo shoot was going to happen!

I said there would absolutely NOT be a court.

They expect me to choose dancers and THEN dance in front of ALL these people?

Then they made me dance alone, and it wasn’t fun.

Which only centered the attention on me more.

I still had to ask a guy to be my chambelan and it was nerve-racking af.

Hulu/ Ugly Betty

I personally couldn’t even dare go this route, but I saw some friends end up dancing with their awkward primo, so I decided it was a no-go from the beginning.

People might’ve mistaken my shyness at the quince for being ungrateful.

I can’t help it, just get me away from the dance floor…quick!

My parents were 100% pulling me in every direction all night.

But I didn’t want this!

But my fam was proud of me and they probably just wanted to show me off.

CW/ Jane The Virgin

Yay. I made it to 15 and I am standing here in a wedding dress! That’s cool, I guess?

In hindsight, I might have a little regret for not enjoying that moment to the fullest.

I wish I had that confidence at 14 to know what I wanted for my quince, but then again, none of us will probably ever be totally comfortable at that age. You live and you learn.

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20 Ways to Celebrate Your Double Quince

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20 Ways to Celebrate Your Double Quince

Maybe you had a classic quince complete with chambelanes and a vals. Maybe yours was more like a big party that just so happened to come with a photoshoot and a tiara. Maybe you didn’t have a quince at all. Whatever your story, turning 30 offers the chance to do it all your way. The doble quince has become a popular way for Latinas to celebrate their heritage and their 30s in style. Here are 20 ideas to get you excited for a doble quince of your own.

1. Throw it back now

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For a truly great double quince, it only makes sense to give your past a nod. This chica rocked her aunt’s prom dress from 1988 to celebrate her sister’s birth year at a doble quince celebration.

2. Embrace your teenage self

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You know your original quince photos are gold now. You looked so little! Your hair was so different! And OMG, that dress! Everyone loves a good #Throwback.

3. Make it a family affair

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Quinces have always been a family event, just like any other, so do it up big and invite everyone to celebrate again. This treintañera celebrated her own birthday along with a family member’s 96th!

4. Your friends totally count as family, of course

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If you’re far away from home for your doble quince, never fear. Fill the room with your adopted familia and celebrate with the same loud, music-filled party you might have had back in the day. Plus, you can recreate the awkward family photos of your youth!

5. Buy the cupcake dress of your dreams

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My quince dress was a knee-length number from Nordstrom, but part of me has always loved the over-the-top puffs of dresses that are so popular with quinceañeras. If you want to be a poofy princess, guess what — si se puede! You earned it.

6. Or re-purpose a prom dress

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There’s something undeniably practical about digging up an old prom dress and turning it into your doble quince outfit. It’s the perfect tribute to your teenage self. Plus, you can spend what you saved on even more glitz…

7. Buy that tiara, too.

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When I went shopping for my quince tiara, I wanted the biggest, sparkliest one I could find. I wanted to look like Anne Hathaway in The Princess Diaries, or Princess Diana. My mom convinced me to get a much more low-key version that suited me better, but if I have a doble quince, you’d better believe I’m going big!

8. Or swap it for a crown

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This Frida-inspired crown is also a totally modern take on the quince tiara. It’s perfect for a more casual celebration and lets you show off your breezy personality!

9. Don’t forget the party favors

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How cute are these homemade velitas? Say gracias to all of your guests with some personalized swag telling them how much they mean to you.

10. Or the cake!

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This Barbie quince cake is the sweetest thing. It’s a little bit vintage and a whole lot of adorable, perfect for a small get together that has plenty of style.

11. You know you need a doble quince photoshoot

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If you had an old-fashioned quince, you definitely had an entire afternoon dedicated to taking dramatic photos of you looking like a true mujer…or at least, you and your mami’s idea of one. Bring back the tradition with some fun updates to mark your new decade!

12. Especially now that you can finally show off the attitude you’ve had since you were 15

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Your day, your rules! You may have had to pose like a nice, proper woman for your quince photos in the past, but now, you can show off your personality — and your attitude.

13. A photo booth is totally acceptable, too

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Celebrate yourself and your cultura with a photo booth backdrop that’s as colorful as both. Your party people will love getting in on the photo shoot action. Consider setting up a Polaroid camera for instant snaps.

14. Especially if you can make your own weird and wonderful backdrop!

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Can we talk about this fluffy royal penguin for a sec? This backdrop is customized, creative, and sure to instantly generate smiles. You don’t even have to say “quinceee!” to get the perfect grin here.

15. Let’s talk chambelanes, porfa.

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This royal court seriously dedicated themselves to the theme. Look at that purple suit and the dama’s purple hair! Your friends are far more likely to dress for the occasion now that they’re down for a good theme party.

16. Go wild!

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Who says sequins aren’t versatile? This doble quince queen had a chambelan de honor who totally dressed the part in a tux that matched her dress to the max!

17. Speaking of los chicos, quinces aren’t just for women anymore!

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Be real, some guys out there were jealous that you got to dress up and be royalty for the day. Now, it’s their turn! This necklace is the perfect bit of sparkle — more subtle than a tiara, but just as indicative of who’s the guest of honor.

18. Your doble quince can be casual

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If your first quince was over the top — or elaborate just isn’t your style — there’s nothing wrong with keep it casual. All you need are good friends and family, some festive decorations, and something sweet to cap it all off.

19. Any dress can be a quince dress

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Much as I love those swirls of chiffon and tulle, let’s be real: Any dress can be a quince dress. This reina wore a gold dress that can definitely be worn again while she celebrated her 30th in Las Vegas.

20. So whatever your doble quince dreams, do you.

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Wear a tiara! Have a watermelon for cake! Blow out a giant candle! Bring the cat! You’re entering a new phase of your life, and you’ve grown and learned so much along the way. Celebrate in whatever style you want, because it’s all your own.

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Quinceañeras Are Extra AF, And These Cakes Are Solid Proof Of That

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Quinceañeras Are Extra AF, And These Cakes Are Solid Proof Of That

The most important part of any quince is the cake. We all know that quinces are always over the top, and that Latinos strive to make the event as memorable and as possible. That means doing things in the most over-the-top way. That includes the cake.

Oh, the cake! People really go all out for a good quijnce cake, with multiple tiers and wild colors and themes. It’s an amazing sight to behold.

These are 25 of the most extra quince cakes that you kind of wish you had.

1. This Beauty and the Beast cake that’s both a beauty and a beast.

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From the yellow frosting to match Belle’s iconic gown, to the rose petals, this is perfect because you immediately know where this is going. And to top it all off, the lit up rose in the glass case from the movie! I mean, if you’re gonna do it REALLY do it. And these people did that.

2. An multi tier ombre extravaganza.

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This is a more modern take on a quince cake, and probably one of the more tamer cakes you’ll find. It’s actually really lovely, and ready to eat. I stan a simple, beautiful cake.

3. A cake to match the quinceañeras dress.

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Listen, matching things that don’t usually go together is kind of amazing. And when young women want their quince dress to match their cake (or is it vice versa?) it’s really proof of their genius design skills. Some dresses are so pretty you can eat them, and now you can!

4. No really, the Beauty and the Beast cakes are kind of a thing.

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Tale as old time. This version, I think it’s safe to say, is a more elevated design of the Beauty and the Beast cake. The golden curtain trim and roses with the encased rose at the top are just *chef’s kiss.* And adding Mrs. Potts and Chip? I mean what attention to detail!

5. The elegant monochromatic cake .

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This one’s for the fancy girls, with mamis and papis that want the quince to be a tasteful and bougie affair. Look at the tier of crystals and all the other shiny embellishments. And those simple flowers up top? Really just the cherry on top of a refined dessert.

6. A psychedelic cake.

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Those galaxy cakes that are recently going viral are the dessert equivalent of a black light poster in a stoner kids dorm room, but somehow it works. East while listening to Pink Floyd’s “Dark Side of the Moon” and trip out.

7. The pretty, pretty dress up cake.

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Doesn’t this look like the cake version those old studio photos where the kids would wear giant flowers, floppy hats and overalls, and the whole thing was sepia toned? It’s sweet and cute and has a traditional, Victorian feel to it.

8. One cake? Why stop at one?!

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I mean sure you can have one multi-tiered cake, but why? When you can totally just have like 10 cakes that all match the big cake! Sure, ehy the hell not. Cake for everyone! You get a cake! And you get a cake!

9. A multilayered fondant show off.

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Bakers can do amazing things in fondant. So why not let them? This cake, with a layer that looks like a fancy silk pillow, a top that has fondant flowers, edible ribbon and other embellisments, is just short of being over the top. But it’s very VERY close.

10. A Barbie goddess cake for the princessitas.

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Hot damn this is a fancy ass cake. Like this family is really out here trying to prove something. The crystals, the glam clocking in at a 15 out of 10, the fondant draping and pillowing – it’s A LOT. BUt anything for their princess, right?

11. This cake that incorporates baby pics.

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This is a pretty cool idea! Guests can literally see every year of the quinceañeras life on her very own cake, and then eat her 5-year-old face right after. I mean when you think about it like that it sounds weird but overall it’s very neat.

12. Using real flowers to up the prettiness.

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Flowers and leaves are just a couple of things you can use to make a cake even more beautiful. No you can’t eat them, but you can appreciate their natural beauty. Adding real flowers and other plants has been somewhat of a new thing that makes for really lovely cake decor.

13. A cultural cake that honors your heritage.

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This Mexicana definitely made the most of her special quince cake using Día de los Muertos as the theme. The sugar skull on top is the perfect tie in for the beautiful flowers and colorful designs. And making the main frosting color black really makes the whole design pop! This is all of our Coco land of the dead dreams come true!

14. Go designer or go home.

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Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Hello Kitty, you name it. Quinceañeras love showing off their love of major designer brands, often using them as the inspiration for their whole quince. It’s pretty tacky but whatever.

15. Quince cakes that go way extra are nothing new.

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Look at this cake from the ’80s. The fountain! The flowers! The muñequita! The weird metal thing it’s all resting on! I love it! It’s just so 80s and so ridiculous and proves crazy cakes are nothing new, but if anything we have elevated the extra to a new level.

16. The bigger tiers, the closer to God.

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I’m guessing this was a Strawberry Shortcake themed cake considering the colors and polka dots, but wow. That is a lot of tiers and a lot of cake. Walking into a party and seeing this beast will tell you right away that this party is gonna go all the way off.

17. When in doubt, just do more. And then some more on top of that.

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You know that phrase, less is more? Yeah, that doesn’t exist in Latino households. Quince cakes with an everything but the kitchen sink mentality are really a sight to behold. This cake, with it’s endless fondant flowers and gold trim, is just short of being too much. But it’s on the cusp.

18. Some keep it way simple.

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And while anyone can say those big, ridiculous cake is too much, this might be too little. But it’s what’s inside my belly that counts, you know.

19. A vision in gold.

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Gold will always up the glam on anything, and that includes a quince cake. This one is minimalist wonder, and looks good enough to eat.

20. A starry night is always a dazzling look.

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If you ever wished upon a star that your quince would be the biggest, most glam party ever, this cake is for you. It’s got taste but the little sparkle goes a long way.
Whatever your taste is, or the theme of your quince, the cake is the best way to show your guests the night they’re about to have. Have fun with it!

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