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20 Types of Worst First Dates We’ve All Suffered Through

Dating is rough. If you’ve ever walked by a table of chicas at brunch, then you know that they’re probably talking about their latest adventures in love and life. I know that’s certainly what I always did, regaling my friends daily with what’s happening in my love life, the good and the bad. Mostly the bad, of course, because that’s what makes for the really good stories.

And for anyone who HAS a love life, then you know that the number one evil of dating is the first date. Sometimes, it can be good. Pleasant, even. But most of the time, first dates make us cringe. They’re awkward and weird and you walk away not quite being sure where you stand. Sometimes, even, they’re so bad that they go down in your memory as the worst first date of all time. We’ve all been there, amirite? That’s where these stories come in. Told from real women (who wished to remain anonymous for, ahem, obvious reasons), these are the 20 types of worst fist dates that we have ALL been through. Trust me, you’ll probably recognize your own or your friend’s stories in at least some of these.

1. The date who pursues you, then insists on splitting the check… Like WHAT?

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“I literally had this guy hassle me to go on a date with him and, because I was a dumb college student, eventually I was like ‘Ok, maybe I should be flattered,’ so I went. We get to the end and he TELLS me we are going to split.

Oh, and the best part: Before we go on our date, he asks, ‘Oh, do you want me to pick you up?’ I was dumb but also paranoid, so I said, ‘No, I’ll meet you.’ So at the end of our date, AFTER he makes me pay, he’s like, ‘Do you mind giving me a ride? I walked here.'”

2. The date who meets you with his bros, then is clueless about how to treat women.

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“I went on a first date with a guy. We were supposed to meet at this bar but I called him and he said he was across the street with his friends from work. I got there and LITERALLY there were like eight finance bros chillin and throwing back shots. They were also being super rude to the bartender and were all giving me the once-over. I slipped out to go to the bathroom and plan my escape by frantically texting my friends for help. I got out of the bathroom and my ‘date’ was there. He apologized for his buddies and said we can go somewhere else.

He took me to this hole-in-the-wall Mexican place where he proceeded to tell me that I was funny ‘for a girl’ and when I asked if he worked with any women he said, ‘Oh yeah, but we put them in the back of the office cause they are too distracting.’ Naturally I tried to high-tail it out of there. He ended up trying to kiss me sloppily and it was super awkward. He proceeded to call and text me for the next two weeks before getting the hint.”

3. The date who literally lives in a bar.

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“I knew the date was going to go south when he immediately confessed that he lived on the couch in the back of the bar where we met. But he was the drummer in this pretty well known band I liked, and I was 24 and kinda starstruck. He started the date by ordering two pickle backs, we did them, ordered two more and I was like, ‘I’m good,’ so he did both.

Over the next hour, he basically took a bottle of bourbon to the face, spent the whole time talking about himself, then, fairly drunk, told me he’d just quit the band that was the primary reason I went out with him in the first place. He then, of course, tried to get me to come back to ‘his place’, which as I mentioned, was a couch in the back of the bar. I declined.”

4. The date who couldn’t handle a successful woman.

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“A guy told me completely seriously that he was glad I was a writer because he could never date a woman who was in a ‘man’s industry,’ like law or medicine.”

5. The date who tried to serenade in THE most awkward way.

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“A guy took me out to dinner, which was fine, but then on the car ride back home he serenaded PSY’s ‘Gentleman’ to me. He made an extra loop just so he could finish singing the song because we got to my place before it was over. It was so awkward, though I still listen to that song occasionally because it cracks me up to remember that.”

6. The date who insisted on watching a movie in the most creepy way possible.

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“I went out with this guy for drinks. He kept trying to get me to come over to his apartment to ‘watch a movie.’ And then after I said I don’t watch horror films, he responded by saying he would protect me.

The worst part came at the end of the date as I was walking away, he grabbed my shoulders to do a quick massage and told me that was what I was missing out on by going home. It should also be noted that he was an hour late because he ‘lost his keys.'”

7. The date who shows up drunk… and it only gets worse form there.

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“This one guy showed up drunk on the first date. I didn’t realize it right away because it was my first time meeting him in person (online dating, folks). As I was parking, he nearly hit my car, then got out, came to the driver’s side of my car and proceeded to touch my hair. ‘You’re so pretty,’ he kept saying.

Inside the restaurant, he accused me of being married because I didn’t give him my number right away. Then, he showed me a tattoo on his chest of his ex-girlfriend’s name and told me how he’d been arrested for allegedly choking her. He talked about how he was going to the renaissance festival and how I should go with him because ‘when you’re in a relationship, you do things you don’t want to do.’

I texted a friend for help to tell me she had an emergency so that I could bail. She waited 30 minutes and her text only said ‘Emergency,’ so I was stuck with making something up to leave. When I got home, he had messaged me on my profile, asking if we were going steady.”

8. The date who tries to impress with his gym routine when he doesn’t exactly look like Rodrigo Santoro.

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“In college, this guy and I were casually flirting while we were both on the board for a club. He asks me out, he’s cute-ish, I say yes. He takes me to Applebee’s… where he orders a half salad… So we’re talking. Turns out we have very little in common.

Then, I think in an effort to impress me, he starts talking about his workout routine… Now, this guy is not what one would call muscular. I wouldn’t go as far as scrawny, but you definitely don’t look at him and think, ‘Gee, this guy works out.’ Which is fine, but then don’t spend 30 minutes talking about the gym.

I’m sure he could tell I was losing interest. So he pulls out this line, ‘I like my face.’ No joke. I think, ‘Cool, guy. Good for you.’ We head back to campus and we go to the club there, where his friend is. We dance for a little, he kisses me and then we leave. It was so odd. And awkward. And cringey. I still occasionally use his line though. I like my face.”

9. The date who leaves you alone and simply can’t give you the proper time or attention.

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“I had a guy take me to the restaurant where he worked, where he proceeded to get up on stage and sing for the crowd. He left me at our table alone for about an hour. Then he used his discount for the meal. And this was all after I had to sit and watch football at his place for about 45 minutes before we could leave because his team was on.”

10. The date who was very, very cheap.

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“I went on a date and the guy took out a coupon and proceeeded to tell me what I could order. The man was very successful, just cheap. I told him I’d order what I liked and pay for it myself. Needless to say, it was the first and last date.”

11. The date who gets lost on the way.

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“This date was overseas, where I went on this date with a local and public transportation is the norm so we take it to go to this ‘cool spot’ out of town. I’ve been living in his hometown for some weeks now so I was getting familiarized with the area. As we arrive to the stop, we get off and realize we are in the middle of nowhere except surrounded by apartment buildings and a supermarket. He proceeds to tell me that ‘we are lost.’ We had spent more than an hour trying to see this ‘cool place’ that didn’t seem to exist. I ended up having to take us back to the city and then I find out he ‘forgot to take his ADHD medication.’ I was floored!”

12. The date who almost threw up. ALMOST.

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“My current partner and I met on Twitter before meeting in real life. When we finally did, we were both bundles of nerves — specifically her. She was so nervous that she almost got sick. I felt bad! Thankfully, she recovered… and after a few years of long distance friendship and a year of long distance love, we’re still here.”

13. The date who is a hoarder… AND can’t stop drinking.

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“I went over to a guys house who he lived with his mom. Okay, not a big deal, we were in our early 20s. Then he invited me into his room, and it was straight out of an episode of Hoarders. There was paper trash, bottles, dishes, and junk just EVERYWHERE. I suggested we go out and get something to eat. We walked to this local pizza place, then he took me to a liquor store, bought a 12 pack of beer (I don’t drink beer) and he proceeded to drink it all on our way back to his house.”

14. The date who has money problems, and many other problems.

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“I had a horrible date with this guy who I met at a Mediterranean restaurant. We went there because he knows an employee at this place, so we get the food for free (to-go). I really don’t care if a guy drops a lot of money on me, but we spent at least an extra 20 minutes trying to order because his card wasn’t working. Apparently, he had money stolen from his account.

At first, I understood until we get our food after waiting for his situation to be resolved. Then, I get into my car. He gets on his motorcycle so I can follow him to our next location. The motorcycle does not turn on. I wait an extra 5-10 minutes for it to function. It eventually does. We get to our final destination and it’s at this Marina. Everything is fine until we arrive to the sailboat where we were going to have our dinner.

So, if you can picture this, we have to make a small leap onto the boat and I’m hesitant to get on because of the jump. He gives me his helmet and I was going to toss it onto the boat. I didn’t know this, but the keys to the motorcycle and entrance to the marina were IN THE HELMET so… They fell into the ocean. They weren’t even his. I ended up seeing him in his boxers on the first date because he was contemplating to swim to the bottom of the ocean to grab them cause his friend was pissed since the keys cost $200.”

15. The date who left her keys in the worst place possible.

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“I had a blind date, which went okay. But towards the end, we left the restaurant where we ate and she realized that she left her keys in the restaurant, which was now closed. We walked back in freezing February weather to see if anyone was there, but nope.

She had no way home AND her car was parked in a tow-away zone. I ended up calling AAA to tow it to a place she could park overnight. Then I had no choice but to invite her to my place, where I slept on the couch and gave her my bedroom. She was nice, but I never heard from her again. She probably just wanted to forget that the whole thing had happened.”

16. The date who is a bit TOO enthusiastic about the food.

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“I went on a first date with a guy who stuffed tortilla chips into his mouth with both hands. I ran home and immediately told my sister about it, and we still laugh about it to this day. We’ve since called him ‘the two-handed chip eater.'”

17. The date who drags you to the last thing you want to do.

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“I was once dragged to a NASCAR event. I feel like that needs no more explanation, haha!”

18. The date who maybe wasn’t prepared for you to be emotional.

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“I met a guy online. We’re at a restaurant, and he goes to the bathroom, so I check my phone, and see that my dad has called me a whole bunch of times, at night and uncharacteristically, so I call back. As the cute, nice guy comes back from the bathroom, my dad answers and tells me my grandma died unexpectedly. I fell off the chair I was sitting on (yep, really!) and started crying. I manage to choke out what happened, so he just asks what to do.

At a loss, I call my friend, who is only a friend but happens to be guy, and he gives nice guy instructions to drive me home along with an lecture about not taking advantage of me. My date kept me comfortable until my friend showed up, and everything worked out fine, but alas, nice guy did not call me again.”

19. The date who was late, terrible, AND made you pay.

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“I went on a date with a research scientist. He was 45 minutes late and showed up stinking. He apologized for his tardiness (and looked NOTHING like his profile pic, by the way). Then he told me, ‘Sorry I’m late. The experiment I was working on went badly and I had to euthanize the monkey.’ Oh, and he forgot his wallet so I had to pay.”

20. The date that starts off really badly… but has a happy ending.

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“He took me fishing. I hate fishing. When we passed a gas station on our way out of town, he told me to duck down because his ex-wife owned it and he didn’t want her to see me and call his CURRENT WIFE and tell on him. Two years later… I married him. We’re still together. We never go fishing.”

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ANTM’s Eva Marcille Bravely Comes Forward With Her Story Of Having Hide In ‘Multiple Places’ To Evade Her Abusive Ex-Boyfriend

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ANTM’s Eva Marcille Bravely Comes Forward With Her Story Of Having Hide In ‘Multiple Places’ To Evade Her Abusive Ex-Boyfriend

Shade is often thrown around on any given episode of the Real Housewives franchises. Gossip is what makes the reality show interesting. Sometimes, however, when lies spread, the truth that is ultimately revealed can be hurtful and speak more about reality than what was intended.

On last night’s episode of “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” one of the women, Marlo, tried to come for a castmate to poke fun at her financial woes. The shade turned out to expose longtime abuse.

Eva Marcille revealed on RHOA that the reason she has been moving from house to house isn’t that she’s lacking money but rather scared for her safety.

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“I still feel a sense of threat,” Marcille told her castmates on last night’s episode. “I have had to move five times, and I still feel a sense of uneasiness. He’s just so petty sometimes. I’ve walked outside of my balcony before, and he’s been standing in the dark. And it is the scariest feeling ever.”

Marcille is an American actress and former winner of the third cycle of America’s Next Top Model who is of Puerto Rican descent.

Marcille alleged that she has a restraining order against her ex-boyfriend, Kevin McCall due to stalking and domestic abuse.

The couple, who share a daughter together (though she refers to him as a “donor”), separated in 2015. She has since gone on to marry Atlanta lawyer Micheal T. Sterling; they too share a child.

Marcille dispelled gossip that she and Sterling have frequently moved around because of financial troubles.

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“Every time I move, he finds me,” Marcille said on the episode. “Because of that, I live in multiple places. Safety is a priority for me.”

Sterling took to social media to support his wife by saying “Everything we got, we earned the hard way. And every day that I wake up, I work for legacy, not labels. Motivational use only.”

Marcille told the women that a former friend, who she had a falling out with, began spreading lies about her. “The lies are real gross, and the hate is beyond,” she said on Instagram.

Her alleged abuser, who’s had a history of erratic behavior at least on social media, said Marcille is just using the claims against him as a fake storyline.

“It’s sad when she gotta keep using my name for her storyline if I was the husband I would be like “Real hoe of Atlanta is you out your mind, or is you still obsessed with your child’s Father? Why is he in our storyline so much ain’t I enuff headline for our relationship?” McCall said on Twitter.

Marlo also said on last night’s episode that Marcille was using old claims to back up her current financial situation.

Last year on “The Wendy Williams Show,” Marcille said that McCall has never been a part of her daughter’s life.

“He thinks that biology is more important than being present,” Marcille said of McCall. “He’s extremely dysfunctional, and he’s not at a place where it’s safe for himself or for others.”

Fans of Marcille were quick to offer her support on Twitter.

The less reasonable are demanding more details.

Others were quick to highlight their favorite and most empowering quotes from Eva on the episode.


READ: News Of This Woman Killing Her 11-Year-Old Daughter Because She Suspected Her of ‘Having Sex’ Is Proof Of The Perils Of Purity Culture

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

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