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I was reading about (relationship topic) and they said _______________ What do you think?

Passion starts with your five senses. Ask questions that have a connection to one of the five senses to spark a sensual connection with your date. Ask questions about interests and enjoyment to open a connection that’s more than skin-deep.

Here are 20 passionate questions that could light sparks, even on the first date. Once you ask, listen carefully and watch your date before you respond.

1. Where would you most like to travel?

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This question will tell you a lot about your date and get them to open up about what they enjoy. If they’re up for Paris and the Eiffel Tower or would rather hit the beach in Cancun, you will know what place inspires your date and know a little more about their physical nature.  A dating study found that 18% of couples who discussed travel went on a second date compared to only 9% of couples who only talked about movies.

2. Do you like to cook?

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This question opens up the world of food and taste. If they do cook, follow up with a question about what they most enjoy cooking. If they don’t, be smooth and ask what they most enjoy having cooked for them. With any luck you will love the same spices … with a passion.

3. What is your favorite animal and why?

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To be honest, if someone has no favorite animal, they might not have any passion for people either. Whether they love cute Chihuahuas or soft kittens, you might be able to sneak in a comment about how they are more desirable than the animal. Don’t be sleazy or obvious — try to find a characteristic that’s complimentary and a little sensual, like smooth fur or strong muscles.

4. What romantic movie do you like most?

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Your date might say “Like Water For Chocolate” in which case the rest of the conversation is an easy and natural way to get more passionate. Ladies, if your date says “The Avengers” is the most romantic movie he’s ever seen, go with the flow and ask him what he likes so much about superheroes.

5. What is the most fun thing you liked to do as a child?

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Passion should be like playing so this question will bring out memories of what your date loved to do when they were small. We may grow up beyond childhood things but the warm memories help to establish a bond that could lead to passion.

6. What is the best present you ever got (or gave)?

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Whatever the present is, and whether they gave it or received it, find a way to compliment your date and encourage them to describe why the gift was “the best.” This question offers the perfect opportunity to say, “I would love to give you the best present you ever got some day.”

7. Tell me about your close friends.

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You will probably hear a lot of information about names that are hard to remember but this question is pure gold to make a personal connection with your date. You’ll find out who they care about and what they love to do naturally. Just open up and listen.

8. If you had all the money you wanted, what would you do?

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This isn’t a question to bring up at the beginning of your date, but if you’re getting along, it can be a good one to bring out hopes, dreams, and interests.

9. What is your favorite time of the day?

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Those tired questions about “what job do you have?” and “what do you do for a living?” are passion-killers. Change things up and ask what your date’s favorite time of the day is. You might hear passion-starting responses like “sleeping late in bed” or “relaxing in the pool after work.” This question invites a lot of follow-up discussion — potentially the passionate kind.

10. I was reading about (relationship topic) and they said _______________ What do you think?

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To do this question right you need to read a little about relationships. If you’re getting along really well, you could try a quote from the famous sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer: “I was reading that a relationship therapist said that when it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between your ears. What do you think?”

11. Have you had anything crazy happen to you lately?

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This topic could turn negative if your date has been in an accident or had another problem, so be prepared to change the subject to something light if this is the case. If not, you might hear some funny and charming responses that offer opportunities for getting closer.

12. What really makes you laugh?

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Laughter doesn’t just make us healthy, it helps us bond and can lead to passion and joy. Learning what your date thinks is hilarious could be perfect. What if it turns out you two are both big Felipe Esparza fans?

13. What are you superstitious about?

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This could be a great chance to get closer — especially if you ask it while you’re walking somewhere together. Does your date believe that the evil eye will keep bad spirits away? Do they think if they put their purse on the floor an evil spirit will take their money? You can laugh and find out new superstitions — again, getting closer.

14. Which kind of chile do you like best?

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This is a subtle way of getting heat into your conversation. You can talk about all different kinds of chiles, from the ones your Tio grew in his back yard to Tajin. Chile and passion are a natural fit.

15. Boxers/briefs or thongs/bikinis?

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If things are going really well, you might try this cheeky question. Many Latinas aren’t going to tell you straight up, guys, but then again, maybe they will! If you get another answer, it could be intriguing … like nothing at all!

16. What is your favorite memory of things you did with your primos?

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A lot of us have crazy stories about the things our primos did to us growing up. My primos convinced me if I went up on the roof at midnight in a bikini I could get a moontan. This question can bring you closer to your date with laughter and intimacy.

17. Which new food have you tried recently that you really liked?

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Be sure to encourage your date to talk about taste and texture with this question. If you’re enjoying a good meal, hopefully, your date will say they like what they’re eating! Arousing the senses of taste, smell, and vision encourages passionate responses.

18. Which kind of music do you love to dance to?

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If you don’t dance, then ask which music they like to relax to or work out to.  If you’re an experienced dancer and your date isn’t, this is the perfect opportunity to get closer.

19. When do you feel most at ease with yourself?

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Whether it’s playing basketball with amigos or cooking dinner for family and friends, you will learn the most natural thing that makes your date feel comfortable. If passion is your goal, putting your date at ease is essential.

20. I told you a secret … what secret can you tell me?

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Tell your date a secret that isn’t too heavy or negative — but make it a secret with some spice that invites their curiosity and interest. The secret could involve something intimate, but don’t get into too many details. Make the secret mirror the passion you plan to share with your date if the two of you are simpatico.


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ANTM’s Eva Marcille Bravely Comes Forward With Her Story Of Having Hide In ‘Multiple Places’ To Evade Her Abusive Ex-Boyfriend

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ANTM’s Eva Marcille Bravely Comes Forward With Her Story Of Having Hide In ‘Multiple Places’ To Evade Her Abusive Ex-Boyfriend

Shade is often thrown around on any given episode of the Real Housewives franchises. Gossip is what makes the reality show interesting. Sometimes, however, when lies spread, the truth that is ultimately revealed can be hurtful and speak more about reality than what was intended.

On last night’s episode of “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” one of the women, Marlo, tried to come for a castmate to poke fun at her financial woes. The shade turned out to expose longtime abuse.

Eva Marcille revealed on RHOA that the reason she has been moving from house to house isn’t that she’s lacking money but rather scared for her safety.

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“I still feel a sense of threat,” Marcille told her castmates on last night’s episode. “I have had to move five times, and I still feel a sense of uneasiness. He’s just so petty sometimes. I’ve walked outside of my balcony before, and he’s been standing in the dark. And it is the scariest feeling ever.”

Marcille is an American actress and former winner of the third cycle of America’s Next Top Model who is of Puerto Rican descent.

Marcille alleged that she has a restraining order against her ex-boyfriend, Kevin McCall due to stalking and domestic abuse.

The couple, who share a daughter together (though she refers to him as a “donor”), separated in 2015. She has since gone on to marry Atlanta lawyer Micheal T. Sterling; they too share a child.

Marcille dispelled gossip that she and Sterling have frequently moved around because of financial troubles.

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“Every time I move, he finds me,” Marcille said on the episode. “Because of that, I live in multiple places. Safety is a priority for me.”

Sterling took to social media to support his wife by saying “Everything we got, we earned the hard way. And every day that I wake up, I work for legacy, not labels. Motivational use only.”

Marcille told the women that a former friend, who she had a falling out with, began spreading lies about her. “The lies are real gross, and the hate is beyond,” she said on Instagram.

Her alleged abuser, who’s had a history of erratic behavior at least on social media, said Marcille is just using the claims against him as a fake storyline.

“It’s sad when she gotta keep using my name for her storyline if I was the husband I would be like “Real hoe of Atlanta is you out your mind, or is you still obsessed with your child’s Father? Why is he in our storyline so much ain’t I enuff headline for our relationship?” McCall said on Twitter.

Marlo also said on last night’s episode that Marcille was using old claims to back up her current financial situation.

Last year on “The Wendy Williams Show,” Marcille said that McCall has never been a part of her daughter’s life.

“He thinks that biology is more important than being present,” Marcille said of McCall. “He’s extremely dysfunctional, and he’s not at a place where it’s safe for himself or for others.”

Fans of Marcille were quick to offer her support on Twitter.

The less reasonable are demanding more details.

Others were quick to highlight their favorite and most empowering quotes from Eva on the episode.


READ: News Of This Woman Killing Her 11-Year-Old Daughter Because She Suspected Her of ‘Having Sex’ Is Proof Of The Perils Of Purity Culture

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

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