I was reading about (relationship topic) and they said _______________ What do you think?
Passion starts with your five senses. Ask questions that have a connection to one of the five senses to spark a sensual connection with your date. Ask questions about interests and enjoyment to open a connection that’s more than skin-deep.
Here are 20 passionate questions that could light sparks, even on the first date. Once you ask, listen carefully and watch your date before you respond.
1. Where would you most like to travel?
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This question will tell you a lot about your date and get them to open up about what they enjoy. If they’re up for Paris and the Eiffel Tower or would rather hit the beach in Cancun, you will know what place inspires your date and know a little more about their physical nature. A dating study found that 18% of couples who discussed travel went on a second date compared to only 9% of couples who only talked about movies.
2. Do you like to cook?
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This question opens up the world of food and taste. If they do cook, follow up with a question about what they most enjoy cooking. If they don’t, be smooth and ask what they most enjoy having cooked for them. With any luck you will love the same spices … with a passion.
3. What is your favorite animal and why?
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To be honest, if someone has no favorite animal, they might not have any passion for people either. Whether they love cute Chihuahuas or soft kittens, you might be able to sneak in a comment about how they are more desirable than the animal. Don’t be sleazy or obvious — try to find a characteristic that’s complimentary and a little sensual, like smooth fur or strong muscles.
4. What romantic movie do you like most?
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Your date might say “Like Water For Chocolate” in which case the rest of the conversation is an easy and natural way to get more passionate. Ladies, if your date says “The Avengers” is the most romantic movie he’s ever seen, go with the flow and ask him what he likes so much about superheroes.
5. What is the most fun thing you liked to do as a child?
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Passion should be like playing so this question will bring out memories of what your date loved to do when they were small. We may grow up beyond childhood things but the warm memories help to establish a bond that could lead to passion.
6. What is the best present you ever got (or gave)?
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Whatever the present is, and whether they gave it or received it, find a way to compliment your date and encourage them to describe why the gift was “the best.” This question offers the perfect opportunity to say, “I would love to give you the best present you ever got some day.”
7. Tell me about your close friends.
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You will probably hear a lot of information about names that are hard to remember but this question is pure gold to make a personal connection with your date. You’ll find out who they care about and what they love to do naturally. Just open up and listen.
8. If you had all the money you wanted, what would you do?
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This isn’t a question to bring up at the beginning of your date, but if you’re getting along, it can be a good one to bring out hopes, dreams, and interests.
9. What is your favorite time of the day?
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Those tired questions about “what job do you have?” and “what do you do for a living?” are passion-killers. Change things up and ask what your date’s favorite time of the day is. You might hear passion-starting responses like “sleeping late in bed” or “relaxing in the pool after work.” This question invites a lot of follow-up discussion — potentially the passionate kind.
10. I was reading about (relationship topic) and they said _______________ What do you think?
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To do this question right you need to read a little about relationships. If you’re getting along really well, you could try a quote from the famous sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer: “I was reading that a relationship therapist said that when it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between your ears. What do you think?”
11. Have you had anything crazy happen to you lately?
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This topic could turn negative if your date has been in an accident or had another problem, so be prepared to change the subject to something light if this is the case. If not, you might hear some funny and charming responses that offer opportunities for getting closer.
12. What really makes you laugh?
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Laughter doesn’t just make us healthy, it helps us bond and can lead to passion and joy. Learning what your date thinks is hilarious could be perfect. What if it turns out you two are both big Felipe Esparza fans?
13. What are you superstitious about?
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This could be a great chance to get closer — especially if you ask it while you’re walking somewhere together. Does your date believe that the evil eye will keep bad spirits away? Do they think if they put their purse on the floor an evil spirit will take their money? You can laugh and find out new superstitions — again, getting closer.
14. Which kind of chile do you like best?
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This is a subtle way of getting heat into your conversation. You can talk about all different kinds of chiles, from the ones your Tio grew in his back yard to Tajin. Chile and passion are a natural fit.
15. Boxers/briefs or thongs/bikinis?
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If things are going really well, you might try this cheeky question. Many Latinas aren’t going to tell you straight up, guys, but then again, maybe they will! If you get another answer, it could be intriguing … like nothing at all!
16. What is your favorite memory of things you did with your primos?
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A lot of us have crazy stories about the things our primos did to us growing up. My primos convinced me if I went up on the roof at midnight in a bikini I could get a moontan. This question can bring you closer to your date with laughter and intimacy.
17. Which new food have you tried recently that you really liked?
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Be sure to encourage your date to talk about taste and texture with this question. If you’re enjoying a good meal, hopefully, your date will say they like what they’re eating! Arousing the senses of taste, smell, and vision encourages passionate responses.
18. Which kind of music do you love to dance to?
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If you don’t dance, then ask which music they like to relax to or work out to. If you’re an experienced dancer and your date isn’t, this is the perfect opportunity to get closer.
19. When do you feel most at ease with yourself?
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Whether it’s playing basketball with amigos or cooking dinner for family and friends, you will learn the most natural thing that makes your date feel comfortable. If passion is your goal, putting your date at ease is essential.
20. I told you a secret … what secret can you tell me?
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Tell your date a secret that isn’t too heavy or negative — but make it a secret with some spice that invites their curiosity and interest. The secret could involve something intimate, but don’t get into too many details. Make the secret mirror the passion you plan to share with your date if the two of you are simpatico.
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