As a Disabled Latina, I’ve been on my fair share of dates. More so since getting out of a serious relationship. Since jumping back into the dating world, I’ve noticed some mistakes people make when it comes to dating myself and my peers who have a disability and are part of the Latinx community. So if you’re going on a date with a Disabled Latina, but you’re a little nervous because society has played you to think Disabled Latinas don’t exist, or that the date won’t be good because they’re “different”, well let me put your mind at ease. And hopefully show you the light by giving you the do’s and don’ts of dating a Disabled Latina.
I guarantee after reading this, you’ll be going on some of the best dates of your life…because Disabled Latinas are pretty dang amazing.
1) Don’t Ask “What’s Wrong With You?”
Often times, when I go on a date with someone, it doesn’t take long to find out that I am the first disabled person they’ve dated. It’s never something that’s big deal for me… that is until The Question comes up. So I’m here to tell you, f the love of Dios, don’t ask “So what’s wrong with you?” Not only can it be hurtful, but it also lets me know you see my disability as something that’s bad. A lot of disabled people view their disability positivity and something that we love. If you ask what’s wrong with us on a date, it just lets us know that your only focus is on our disability and not us. It also puts us in an awkward position if we’re not comfortable yet telling you about it.